The Meaning Behind “No”

When you say YES to others

saying no

On most days, I am the “YES woman” – hardly ever would you hear me say NO to anyone in my family, especially my kids, or my friends, or my co-workers. But in recent weeks, I have been feeling overextended and run down. At times, I have this FOMO thing (Fear Of Missing Out) when it comes to anything having to do with my kids. Today, my Hubby offered to take our 5 year old and her older sister to the Bridgit Mendler concert, when it was me originally. His intentions are good – he wanted me to rest after surviving the JB concert a few days prior. I have to accept these offers like they’re gifts, and know that sometimes I need to say no and take care of myself, regroup, refocus and just rest.


The Last Random Thoughts Thursday of 2010

  • Since we extended our cable package, I’ve had the pleasure of watching the following movies (and mind you, I am the person who finds it a feat to dedicate 2 hours to sitting and watching a movie!): My Sister’s Keeper, The Family Who Preys, It’s Complicated, Four Christmases, He’s Just Not That Into You, Julie & Julia and Arthur – what can I say, Hubby made a good move in upgrading the cable!
  • While I feel we need to buckle down financially, I am happy we were able to make some pretty hefty worthwhile purchases for our family: King bed, third vehicle, new bedroom furniture for the girls, a new sofa and ottoman, and a new 50 inch TV.
  • On that note, I heart our new TV!!!
  • I loved the text I got from our boy yesterday updating us on his whereabouts: “Hi. We’re eating now. Hi mom :) how was work?” And when he came home, he gave me a big hug and was just catching up with me — he apparently had a whole lot to say about the last two days since I hadn’t really seen him. The little things…gotta love it.
  • Ella: “Mommy, don’t say Joe. Only my grandma calls him Joe.” LOL!!! Oh Ella. She’s so used to hearing me call her Daddy “honey”.
  • I am ecstatic and honored to be a Godmother to my Bestie’s baby girl Maya Elenia. My baby girl not only has a sunsister, but a Godsister. :)
  • I am truly blessed with a wonderful set of friends and family — cannot wait to make more memories in 2011!
  • To me, my Hubby is the best husband in the universe — I admire SO MUCH about him. I learn so much from him, especially when it comes to being patient and forgiving. He’s perfection in my eyes (and I know this even when I’m crabby).
  • Looking forward to a nice relaxing prelude to 2011 this weekend — more time with family and friends.
  • Proud of myself for being committed to my very first blog this year — I have never ever completed a consistent journal of my life that has lasted as long as a year. I plan to continue blogging into 2011.
  • To join or not join…a gym. Ugh.
  • Ella is hooked on the Katy Perry songs “Teenage Dream” and “Firework” (I admit, I’m a little hooked myself).
  • I just found this — should come in handy with one of my 2011 goals :)
  • Sometimes I find myself missing: Muay Thai Kickboxing, hula, my old condo, my co-workers from HSBC, my Thursday night outings at 23 years old when I managed to stay out ’til 4am and make it to work by 7:30am, my long hair, high school & college days, my discipline when it comes to working out, old school hip hop…and I mean the good stuff.
  • I am NOT old — but I AM a grown up. :)
  • My January 2011 social calendar is already BOOKED. Man!
  • If I don’t log in again before 2010 comes to an end, I wish you all a year of precious memories made, little and big goals achieved, exciting adventures and finding the peace and happiness in the simple things in life. Happy New Year!

Deep-fried Oreos, Birthday Cakes & Fireworks – OH MY!

What a funfilled weekend it was! We somehow managed to juggle a sleepover at our house on Friday with our nieces, a double-BBQ (one on Saturday at my folks’ and another on Sunday at the in-laws’ that we hosted), a movie, a birthday lunch, a little shopping, lots of cooking, laundry, and STILL work out…the funny thing is that despite how incredibly busy it was, our family (the 6 of us) managed to spend some quality time together – it’s been a long time since we’ve all even had dinner together since my our son works. The whole weekend was a perfect balance of friends, family and our children. And the most important part of the weekend was my Hubby’s birthday, which we celebrated all weekend long. I hope he feels how loved and special he is to ALL of us. :) Here are some photos from the weekend – hope you had a wonderful weekend as well!

My folks surprised Joe with a birthday cake at the BBQ they hosted on Saturday - so sweet...and the card they gave him was even sweeter. :)

This face...priceless!

Me and my favorite girls!

Pretty girls, pretty dresses...

Cake #2: Making a wish with family and friends

IBC + Devin + Edmon (my baby was playing in the other room)


The kids watching the sky light up with fireworks!

Me and my Ella watching fireworks together :)

Who needs the fair? We made our OWN deep-fried OREOS as an "after-fireworks" snack!

Our taste-tester Bubba Joel - we got his approval that it was a big hit!

Our girls at TGI Fridays for Hubby's birthday lunch

Happy birthday, Daddy!

Shopping - love this picture of the fantastic four!

The 21-Day Plan

With some advice from a good girlfriend of mine, I decided to try out this 21-day plan in an effort to live healthier. Research has shown that it takes the average person 21 days to break or form a habit. My friend Jo told me to eat right and workout for 21 days straight – something I have never done before. So far, it’s going well and I am only on day 4. We have been eating better and exercising for the last 4 days, and it’s becoming easier to do – it hasn’t been easy, but it’s getting easier. I am so proud of the Hubby and I for being disciplined. Here are some tips in becoming successful at this plan.

  • First of all, you will need to be clear on your intentions.
  • Once you are absolute certain you want to follow through with this, here is what you do. First write down your intentions. It is important you use positive affirmations to write these goals.
  • It helps if you can identify your why. Why do you want to achieve this goal or break this habit?
  • Create diversions to help you stay on track. If there is a specific weakness you battle that stops you from progressing and practicing every day, try to find ways to distract you from the negativity. It will help to keep you on track. Total honesty with yourself goes a long way here.
  • Celebrate each step, regardless how tiny it is. You need all the help you can get to keep motivated. It also helps to enlist the support of friends or family members. People who can motivate you to keep on going.
  • Stay clear of negative people. There will be those who try to sabotage you. This doesn’t even have to be intentional. It could evolve from a negative statement aimed at you, or even a deep rooted belief you had since you can remember. Any trigger that could bring this out should be avoided.
  • Have a goal or want to break a habit? Join me in this journey! Here are a couple of websites for inspiration:

    Small Changes

    Something about this age is already feeling good – or could it be just a good reflection of my life today versus a year ago, or perhaps all the life’s lessons I learned in the past year. Whatever it is, I feel stronger, more inspired and in control of my life.

    Yesterday I started back up on WW. Jennifer Hudson is the new spokesperson and I like how she doesn’t reveal her weight or weightloss. She just looks and feels better, and really that’s all that matters. I like that approach, although I will be using the scale to measure my success as well as how I feel when I look in the mirror. I’ve been packing healthier lunches, portioning everything out and been cooking healthier meals at home. Last night I made chicken stir-fry using chicken breast, bell peppers, carrots and broccoli. I had white rice, but watched my portion. And I felt satisfied! Also I started exercising again. I have been doing 20 minute bootcamp workouts, which I notice have been helping me sleep better. I don’t wake up feeling lazy and groggy, but instead I feel well-rested and energized.


    The picture above was from 5 years ago! I decided to try WW for the first time and lost about 10 lbs. I have a whole year to get to my goal weight (and it’s a lot more than just to lose 10 lbs), so I’m easing into this without the pressure of a close deadline. 

    Our kids, who watch everything we do, are getting into the new eating-style. We bought this huge container of almonds for a “healthier option” snack. Honestly, even at the check-out line in Costco, I thought “I think this will go to waste.” But I’m happy to say that the container is only half full now and I’m proud when I see our kids eating almonds with us. Small changes will hopefully lead to big lasting results.