I heard a piece of advice from a mother that was on Oprah yesterday in regards to disciplining and raising her kids. I thought there was a lot of value in this:
“They have to think you CARE before they care what you think”
Having 2 teenagers, Hubby and I are constantly communicating with our children about anything from boyfriends/girlfriends to why they’re not allowed to have a Facebook or MySpace account right now to why it’s important to be honest with yourselves and with us to why it’s important to do well in school to why it’s important to choose good friends…the topics are endless.
When I heard the mother say those words “They have to think you CARE before they care what you think” my Hubby and I looked at each other with a sigh of relief. We always include somewhere in our conversations with our teenagers that the reason why this rule is in place or this reprimand is in place or these limitations are set are because we love them and we care. Once your child feels the love, security and care from the parents, they’ll understand the rest of what you have to say with very little, or no, resistance. And believe me, when they’re older and parents themselves, they will thank you for it. :)